This thread, threads like it, and many discussions I've heard on VATUSA facility teamspeaks disappoint me. Controllers are openly critical of pilots, and sometimes outright hostile. The way I read it and hear it, it goes beyond good-natured kidding. And it's not coming just from the rank and file, but from people who are in official and unofficial positions of leadership.
For those who remember me from ca. 2005-2007, I used to be among the critical crowd. Occasionally I slip up today and let my emotions get the better of me. So I'm not without fault.
If I'm having a bad day, I will do my best to bite my tongue and try again tomorrow. If I ever get to the point where I hate my pilots, I think it's time I take a long break. I'll come back when controlling is fun again.
The VATUSA family atmosphere needs to include pilots.
Members should, at all times, be courteous and respectful to one another.
Since this is a learning environment, there are times when a pilot may encounter a new air traffic controller who is in the process of learning his airspace and/or general air traffic control procedures. The same may be true of the controller who may find himself issuing ATC to a pilot flying online for the first time. Everyone should remember to exercise patience and courtesy to these new pilots and controllers.
I agree with your sentiment, and largely think that us controllers DO feel a sort of "familyness" towards pilots. I think you may be misinterpreting what other controllers in this thread are trying to communicate. Controllers, at least in VATUSA, spend a lot of time learning and trying to "do it all right". We spend so much time learning and so much time attempting to perfect our controlling (to no avail of course because no one will ever be perfect), that when we see pilots who don't have that same drive that we do to learn everything there is to know about flying their airplane properly, well it can be a little disappointing.
I think the controllers of VATUSA are willing and ready for more knowledgeable pilots, but not all pilots desire that amount of detail out of their simulated experiences. With Controllers and Pilots, the relationship is one of "Yin and Yang" in a lot of respects.
K